Toxic Positivity: The Detriment Of Negligent Optimism EP#377

Jan 17, 2021

Just think positive.
Put on a happy face.
Look on the brightside.
Think happy thoughts.
Don’t cry over spilled milk.
Good vibes only.

Sound familiar? There is no shortage of platitudes and idioms that send the message that the only acceptable emotion to feel is happiness. The underlying implication is that emotions of sadness, worry, shame, embarrassment, etc. are simply not permissible. And, for god sake, don’t let me actually see you experience one of those emotions. So, “sweep it under the rug” and “have an attitude of gratitude”.

And, then if you are in a personal shitstorm, you feel guilty for actually feeling awful. Like, other people have it sooooo much worse, so who am I to feel bummed about losing this job promotion? Better put on a face of “nothing to see here”. And perhaps you’ve even found yourself saying one of these platitudes to someone else. Instead of the awkward intimacy of witnessing someone in an uncomfortable state, we say, “Don’t cry” or something else that completely bypasses and dismisses their emotions.

The name for this phenomenon?

Toxic positivity.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t think we consciously employ this language with the intention of dismissing how we feel or how others feel. But, it can be incredibly detrimental nonetheless. In this week’s show, I address how toxic positivity shows up in our lives and how to process aaaaaall the emotions in a powerful way. Get ready for a massive dose of emotional intelligence.

This pod explores:

  • My formula for knowing when to use positive affirmations and when that is the LAST thing you should do
  • Understanding what Toxic Positivity actually is and how it is showing up in your life right now
  • Powerful and alternative phrases to say to both yourself and others to allow room for all emotions
  • The (somewhat) ugly truth about personal growth that no one has told you before

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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) stand up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?

It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.

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