23 Jan The Mediocrity Epidemic
I just got back from an incredible experience with 22 other powerful women and I’ve been re-inspired and reminded of the life I CHOOSE to live. Along with two dear colleagues, I took a group of brave women on a cruise of a lifetime to re-create the women they desire to be in the world. It got me thinking much about a concept I have termed the Mediocrity Epidemic.
The Mediocrity Epidemic is something I think many of us are familiar with; Simply put, it’s living the life that is just “ok”. Nothing is really awful… But it’s sure not blissful. Perhaps it’s the dulling marriage or the dead-end job… Maybe it’s the lack of a thriving group of like-minded friends… or insufficient health you simply tolerate. Or, maybe things look great outwardly, but you struggle with truly finding happiness. Perhaps your relationship to YOU is the biggest struggle. The problem with this Mediocrity Epidemic is you can live with it forever. Mediocrity is tricky in the sense that it is rarely painful enough to spark change. It’s tolerable. And, for that reason, many people inadvertently choose it as a way of being… for a lifetime.
Change is what happens when it becomes too painful to stay the same.
And, usually that takes a crisis. But, what if you didn’t wait for a crisis to make a change? What if you tasted and relished every day of your life with a sense of ALIVENESS? Damn, that would be amazing, right? Here’s the place I think we get stuck. We don’t think it exists. We think, “Well, ‘good enough’ I can count on, so let’s just settle.” Perhaps you’ve found yourself in the same boat. One of my previous clients, Kathryn, felt like a life of aliveness wasn’t really possible and then completely proved herself wrong. Another dear client, Jasmine, felt the same. She also changed her life.
What shifted? They accessed the tools to change.
Let me ask you this: Have you ever seen a catchy Facebook or Instagram meme and thought, “That’s amazing. But, how the hell am I supposed to do that?” Maybe it’s about people-pleasing, working with fear, or changing your self-talk. Yeah, you aren’t alone. I am often baffled that we teach math, science, and physical education in schools, but NOWHERE do we teach children how to speak kindly to themselves, establish boundaries, and cultivate confidence. So, if these things don’t come easy, cut yourself some slack.
Here’s the good news. You absolutely, without a doubt, have the ability to live a life of radical joy and self-love and acceptance. Now. You are capable. Already. There is nothing wrong with you. You aren’t broken. And, you absolutely deserve more than mediocre. You deserve ALIVENESS.
The simple gateway from where you are now to the life you desire is your skill set. That’s it. Simply put, you just haven’t LEARNED all the skills and tools you need to dramatically change how you feel about yourself and in turn, create the life you deeply desire. You think Kathryn and Jasmine had any idea how to access their personal power? Or establish boundaries? Or find their confidence? Of course not! They simply LEARNED. And, implemented. And, everything changed. Everything.
Both these courageous women (and countless others) have worked through my Deep, Down, + Dirty one-on-one coaching program. The Deep, Down, + Dirty Program is my one-on-one coaching emersion, which walks you through a 12-week process to uncover and access radical self-love, worthiness, and self-acceptance. You’ll learn what it means to truly live life on YOUR TERMS and happiness will no longer be a dream. It will be your reality.
Because this guided coaching method is one-on-one, I am very limited to the amount of clients I am able to take on. Currently, I have 2 (maybe 3) openings and I would love to invite you to jump on the phone with me, if you feel this may be the skill set you need. Again, space is extremely limited, so if you feel the pull, let’s do this.
Regardless if one-on-one work is in the cards for us at them moment or not, I hope you know you are wildly WORTHY. Of aliveness. Of anything and everything your heart desires.