True or False: People-Pleasing Edition EP#335

Feb 16, 2020

Are people-pleasers liars? Is putting yourself first selfish? If you feel you have “let someone down” does that mean the emotion you are feeling is ‘guilt’? I’m guessing you have a gut response answer to all of these questions and those answers may be informed by faulty logic. Hear me out…

Most of us grow up hearing that we “shouldn’t rock the boat”, we shouldn’t “open a can of worms”, and that we should simply “sweep it under the rug”. In my not-so-humble opinion, these are all idoms for “shut the fuck up and suffer in silence”. That may be a bit hyperbolic, but seriously though… how often have you felt like you couldn’t speak up because it would simply destroy the other person? Better suffer in silence, amiright!?

Unfortunately, when we chronically stifle our voice, we are sending a subconscious message to ourselves that we simply don’t matter as much as everyone else. Taking care of the other person’s emotions is FAR MORE important than your own. So no wonder you’ve been struggling with self-worth! HELLO!

In this week’s show, I surprise Mr. Smith with a pop quiz, true-or-false-style, to see how much he’s learned about people-pleasing over the last seven years. Play along and find out if you are standing up for yourself or if you’re letting everyone else dictate your thoughts, actions, and speech. And, not to fear, I spill all the deets on HOW to speak up in the stickiest of situations. Let’s do this.

This pod explores:

  • How being a kind, compassionate person can backfire on you and how to make sure it doesn’t
  • How to decline with grace (especially if it’s something you reeeeeally don’t want to do)
  • Why you HAVE GOT TO stop saying “I feel so bad!” or “I feel so guilty!”
  • Why “selfish” is seriously the new black

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I'm a sassy-ass life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. I help aspiring badasses (hint: that's YOU!) stand up for themselves without being assholes. As in... telling your mom to stop butting into your relationship. You feel me, no?

It's time to let go of all that people-pleasing and cultivate some serious "enoughness". You're home, love. You're home.

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