How to Say What You Really Mean, Part 2 [TJJS:EP198]

say what you mean

say what you mean

IIf you’re like most people, you learned how to address conflict through a process of trial and error. Maybe it was just how your parents did things… just sweeping things under the rug or telling little white lies to make sure everyone else was happy.

And, then you get into your adult life and wonder why you are always pulled to tell lies about why you can’t make it to that one work event instead of simply saying that you have plans. Or maybe now there is a shit-ton of conflict in your relationship, but you keep telling everyone else about it… just not your spouse.

Listen, Love. If this is your sitch you are soooo not alone. It’s likely that you simply were never taught HOW to actually speak up for yourself and say what you really mean. In last week’s episode, I covered off 6 major communication habits we tend to fall into instead of simply saying what we really mean. In this week’s edition, I cover off what you can actually DO about those patterns so that you can truly stand up for yourself. With grace and kindness, of course.

This pod explores:

  • The questions you MUST ask yourself when you feel pulled to write something off or “sweep it under the rug”
  • How to use jokes and being passive aggressive as a gate-way to actually say what you mean (this one is easy!)
  • The best way to enter into a challenging convo so that the other person is waaaaay more likely to listen
  • My favorite way to decline invites without being a big ‘ol liar (You can do this, I promise!)




Join me for a totally FREE (and totally awesome) virtual workshop where you’ll learn:

  • How to stop taking responsibility for everyone else’s happiness shit (as in, trying to make mom/boss/hubs happy… at all times. #exhausting)
  • How to actually set and enforce boundaries in your life without being riddled by guilt (And you’ll learn what-the-hell a boundary even is.)
  • How to speak up for yourself without being a total dick (It’s easier than you think!)
  • How to change your relationship to fear so you aren’t always so god-damned afraid of going after things you want (Or speaking up to you-know-who.)

You in? Of course you are! Simply swing by this page or click the image above to secure your seat!

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