6 Ways Strong Self-Worth Affects Your Relationships Ep#353

6 Ways Strong Self-Worth Affects Your Relationships Ep#353

Recently, in one of my classes, the topic came up about how our relationships start to change as we get further and further into personal development. Sometimes you come up against some opposition from a handful of peeps in your life who don’t really love the “new, empowered you”… The “you” who is setting boundaries. The “you” who is standing up for themselves.

But… something we haven’t talked about as much on the pod is the multitude of other ways that your relationships start to change as you begin to grow and take a stand for yourself. When you start to actually believe that you’re “enough”. And, often, when you’re in the painful, murky waters of looking at all your shit, you just want to know that something good is going to be on the other side. I mean… tell me that I will love my life even if I’m setting all these boundaries… it won’t always be this hard, right? RIGHT!?

So, this week, I thought I would dig into 6 ways that a strong sense of self-worth radically impacts your relationships For. The. Better. So, you can look at this journey through the lens of what you’re gaining instead of what feels painful. Have a listen and change your perspective on this roller coaster we call Personal Growth.

This pod explores:

  • How valuing yourself changes how you address what you need in a given relationship
  • How worthiness changes how much you blame others (like, if only my mom wasn’t such a nag… )
  • How strong self-worth changes the sorts of relationships you are willing to tolerate
  • The absolute BEST side effect of cultivating your worth and self-love (Hint: It involves other badasses)

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TRUE OR FALSE: INNER CRITIC EDITION EP#352

TRUE OR FALSE: INNER CRITIC EDITION EP#352

If you’ve been involved in personal development or self-help for a while, surely you have come into some conflicting information around managing your inner critic, what that actually means, and how to really do it. Although it’s #amaze that there are so many people spreading positive messages out there, it doesn’t mean that there aren’t some seriously problematic ideas being conveyed about what it means to “successfully” contend with your inner voice.

If you’ve seen memes floating around Facebook or Insta telling you to just love and accept yourself and speaking kindly to yourself and all your problems will magically disappear, honey, you are not alone. And, it can feel downright discouraging and defeating when you actually DO start speaking kindly to yourself and the heavens don’t part and make way for unicorns giving out ice cream. In this episode, I thought it would be fun to do a little game of True or False with Mr. Smith to see if I’ve been accurately painting a realistic picture of what it really looks like to manage an inner critic on the regs.

Have a listen, play along, and see how you do on this round of ten True or False statements! You’ve got this!

This pod explores:

  • The ways in which our Inner Critics communicate with us (hint: more than one, babycakes!)
  • Why your Inner Critic changes and how to stay on top of it
  • How and when to use positive affirmations (this answer may surprise you!)
  • The next step you need to take to get this inner voice under control

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The Difference Between Fear + Your Inner Critic and What to Do About Them EP#351

The Difference Between Fear + Your Inner Critic and What to Do About Them EP#351

 

Tell me if this sounds familiar: You get all pumped up about a new love interest or an exciting new job opportunity and then BAM! All of a sudden you feel a sinking feeling in your belly and a barrage of commentary starts in your mind. What if he thinks I’m too high-maintenance? What if they think I’m under-qualified? What if her family hates me? What if they think I’m incompetent?

You know that mind vortex, amiright? This, my friend, is the lovely little dance between Fear and your Inner Critic: the hybrid of how you FEEL and what you are SAYING to yourself in your own mind. Much of the time they work very much in tandem, but there is a subtle difference.

Why does this matter? Because the more you can understand what negativity is happening in your mind and body, the more equipped you are to combat it… And overcome it. In this episode, I tease apart the differences between these two concepts and show you ways you can “catch” either one. The more you understand, the better you will be at choosing to listen to your powerful inner voice so you can actually find that soulmate or start that biz or go back and finish that degree. And feel damn good about it.

This pod explores:

  • The #1 phrase you must start listening for in order to operate from a place of confidence instead of fear
  • My favorite tool to distract yourself from catastrophic thinking so you can actually focus (and get) what you really want
  • How to know if your Inner Critic is more of a feeling or a voice or both and what to do with each of them
  • Two areas to focus on so you can jump from fearful and freaked-out to confident and courageous

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Being Better, Doing Better: Addressing Whiteness + Anti-Racism EP#350

Being Better, Doing Better: Addressing Whiteness + Anti-Racism EP#350

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Disclaimer/Trigger Warning: This week’s show is a discussion directed towards white people and encourages a deeper understanding of white people’s role in social injustice and racism. BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color) are absolutely more than welcome to listen and contribute, but I fully acknowledge and support that your mental and emotional health comes first.

It’s no secret that the current events of police brutality and social unrest have left many white individuals floundering and seeking answers on how to support BIPOC and not cause further damage or compound the problem. Perhaps you are one of them. Perhaps you have been afraid to speak up for fear of saying the wrong thing. Maybe you’ve been curious about what your role is or what your next move should be. Maybe you are so ready to look at your role in systemic racism, but you’ve been paralyzed with the inundation of information over social media as of late.

Listen, I feel you. It’s a lot to wrap your head around. And, and we have to keep looking at it. We have to keep being uncomfortable. In this episode, I do my best to share my learnings about social justice over the past few years, how we can start unpacking our role in the matter, and some great places you can start. Let’s do better.

This pod explores:

  • How to avoid trying to “win at white”
  • Understanding why the relationship between Black and White America is unlike any other relationship you are familiar with and your responsibility in the matter
  • The relationship between perfectionism, the need for approval, and racism
  • How to determine what your next action step is

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How To Deal When You’re Stressed AF EP#349

How To Deal When You’re Stressed AF EP#349

One. More. Thing. One more thing and you may just lose your god-damned mind. If one more person asks something of you… If one more task gets added to your to-do list… You may just Lose. Your. Shit.

We’ve all been in this crazy-ass-stressed-the-fuck-out place where we become, uh-hem, a little less than the best version of ourselves. We scream at our kids when they need something minimal. We lash out at our spouse, or friend, or co-worker when they are just trying to help. In essence, we become committed to being super stressed out and overwhelmed.

If this sounds like I have a hidden camera installed in your place, dude, you need to have a listen to this week’s pod. BTW, no camera (#creepy)… I’ve just been in this place far too many times to count. And in this episode, I discuss 8 simple things you can do to let go of the overwhelm, stress, and mortal combat that may be driving you to the brink of insanity. Say hello to some serious peace, tranquility, and happy spouses.

This pod explores:

  • The three things you can do today to immediately slim down that never-ending to-do list… because, you need some free time, my friend
  • My favorite way to jar my mind from going down the overwhelm rabbit hole and how this shift in focus will have you chillin’ out in no time
  • How to figure out exactly what you need to say “yes” to and what you need to say “no” to when everything feels super important (Hint: not everything is important. For reals.)

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SELF-FORGIVENESS: LETTING GO + MOVING BEYOND EP#348

SELF-FORGIVENESS: LETTING GO + MOVING BEYOND EP#348

Forgiveness, especially SELF-forgiveness, can be one of the most challenging concepts to grasp on the up and down road of personal development. How on earth are you supposed to forgive yourself for past mistakes? I mean… if you forgive yourself, won’t you be letting yourself off the hook? Or if you forgive yourself are you saying that it’s actually okay that you fucked up that relationship or that job? It seems much easier to simply talk mad shit to yourself than to actually entertain the concept of forgiving yourself.

And the cycle continues, right? You beat yourself up for your past and without realizing it, you pave the way for your future. What if… what if you could actually forgive yourself AND still feel remorse? Whaaaaa!!? In this episode I hash out the biggest misconceptions around self-forgiveness, how it affects your self-talk, and why it may be causing you to NOT forgive others…. Which, as you know, equals being kind of a pissy-pants most of the time.

This pod explores:

  • How to understand what forgiveness really is (Hint: It doesn’t mean you would do that *thing* again)
  • How to navigate the barrage of shit-talking you say to yourself for things you’ve done in your past (Like… I’ll tell you EXACTLY what to say instead)
  • How to switch your focus on to who you want to be instead of who you used to be
  • How your judgment of others may be calling your ass out on your own self-forgiveness

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How to Stop Apologizing + Over-Explaining EP#347

How to Stop Apologizing + Over-Explaining EP#347

If you’ve hung out with me for a while, you know that I’ve spoken often about NOT apologizing for yourself in regards to your wants, opinions, needs, and desires… As long as you express those wants, opinions, needs, and desires with grace + kindness. Through my work, and talking on this subject frequently, I’ve realized that there is a slippery way we apologize for ourselves through over-explaining.

Perhaps you can identify with this idea. I mean… the last time you were unable to make it to an event, did you simply decline or did you give a lengthy explanation why you couldn’t make it? Or how ’bout over-explaining a decision you’ve made… like, not wanting kids or opting to be vegan or moving across the country or getting tattooed. Are you comfortable just stating that or do you feel the need to explain WHY you made those choices?

Listen, there are certainly going to be those people in your life who you love having convos with about the various choices you’ve made. And then… And then, there are aaaaall those other instances where you really don’t want to get sucked into the 3rd degree about why you aren’t married yet. Amiright? In this episode, I’ll help you sort through where you tend to get sucked into the over-explaining trap, how to know if you really want to engage in the convo, and how to find some serious confidence in your choices, opinions, and stances.

This pod explores:

  • How to identify where you tend to over-explain yourself (what triggers you)
  • How to know when you actually do want to explain where you’re coming from, what choices you’ve made, or opinions you hold dear
  • How to get out of answering questions you don’t have any interest in answering… without being an asshole about it
  • The most common way people tend to over-explain themselves when it’s absolutely not necessary

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When New Trauma (AKA Pandemic) Kicks Up Old Trauma + What to Do About It EP#346

When New Trauma (AKA Pandemic) Kicks Up Old Trauma + What to Do About It EP#346

You spent years in therapy dealing with your “family of origin” issues, so #WTF does dad still trigger you like crazy? Especially now during this whole quarantine bullshit? You learned how to deal with your inner critic and were handling it like a #boss, so why has Covid been bringing out your inner shit talker in full force? You know how to speak up for yourself, but you let your MIL run all over you yesterday. So what gives?

Well, my friend, this lovely little personal development journey you’ve got here… NEVER ENDS. And, that doesn’t mean that your life doesn’t get a shit-ton better and have you all empowered, but it DOES mean that you will likely contend with hardship and triggers for the rest of your life… PD just helps you engage with those triggers and hardships in a more empowered way. PLUS… whenever you experience a new trauma (a la coronavirus) it naturally kicks up old trauma. Yay. Great.

If you’ve been at a loss as to how to address this collective grief and trauma we’ve all been experiencing and have been saying things like, “I thought I already worked through this shit!” then this episode is a must-listen. I address 6 concepts that can help you alter your perspective around your own growth which will leave you #relieved and excited about the journey instead of judging it. And also… TOOLS.

This pod explores:

  • Why addressing our shiz isn’t a “one and done” sort of process and how to view it in a more empowering light
  • My favorite question to ask yourself when old shit surfaces again (Ugh. I know.)
  • How to identify healthy behaviors that make you feel safe
  • Why you need to FEEL, not FIX and why you reeeeeally don’t want to

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Self-Blame: Always Assuming It Must Be Your Fault EP#345

Self-Blame: Always Assuming It Must Be Your Fault EP#345

Tell me if this sounds familiar: Your partner/bestie/boss/mom says something snarky and you immediately make it all your fault and assume that you MUST have done something horribly wrong. And then, without asking for any type of clarity, you just stew on it, ruminating, and make up all sorts of stories about what that other person is thinking and how you must clearly be a total asshat.

The tendency to self-blame around every corner is actually far more common than you may think. Even though you are perpetually making it “all about you” (even if it’s in your own mind), doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a narcissist or purposely trying to take the blame for everything.

In this week’s episode, I discuss a multitude of reasons your knee-jerk reaction may be to self-blame (aka I must have done something wrong!!), four steps to dealing with this habit, and how to let go of some of this shit that is soooo not your responsibility.

This pod explores:

  • Why you tend to think that it’s all your fault, you must have done something wrong, and surely *that person* is pissed at you
  • My four-step process to breaking down your self-blame so you can have richer connections with people and you know… not hate yourself
  • My absolute favorite tool that immediately snaps you out of blaming yourself (and it’s soooo easy)

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What Self-Care *Really* Means EP#344

What Self-Care *Really* Means EP#344

You’re scrollin’ through Insta or Facebook and you see all these lovely inspirational memes about self-care and making yourself important and you’re like, “Yeah, lemme just book a facial. That should help me feel less stress from my shit job.” If you’ve been cynical about self-care, honey, I feel you.

Self-care’s online reputation would have you believing that taking care of yourself is all about mani/pedi’s, bubble baths, and massages. While these things definitely fall in the self-care category, there are actually WAY more ways to take care of yourself… most likely in ways you haven’t even thought of.

In this week’s pod, I share four-ish major categories of your life that are often overlooked when it comes to truly taking care of yourself. If you’ve been feeling like you just don’t have the desire for a home spa day, but you KNOW something’s gotta change or you’re going to lose your shit, this episode is a MUST-LISTEN.

This pod explores:

  • What-the-hell boundaries have to do with self-care
  • The number one area where Perfectionists tend to majorly lack self-care
  • Dental visits, work relationships,‘Being Lazy’, and other surprising forms of self-care

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If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome

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