How to Get Out of the Comparison Trap EP#163

How to Get Out of the Comparison Trap EP#163

 

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EEver find yourself cruisin’ through Facebook, just minding your own business, and then BOOM! You see someone who is thinner than you posing in her bikini in her exotically sexy, annoying vaca pics and you instantly start comparing yourself to her. Or maybe it’s that one guy you used to work with sharing about his amazing work promotion for his new, totally awesome company, and your mind starts GOING OFF about how you just aren’t smart enough… not good enough… not accomplished enough. Just. Not. Enough. And, you end up thinking, “I’ve got to stop comparing myself to others!” Because… it feels kinda shitty, amiright!?

Maybe it’s not even Facebook… although it can be a BEAST in the whole comparison thing. Maybe it’s your co-worker, your neighbor, your bestie, or even your spouse that you constantly compare yourself to. And it usually ends the same way… with you CONVINCED that you totally suck. How do I know? Oh, honey, because I have soooo been there. And you are certainly not alone. In this week’s episode, I share four ways you can change how you address the comparison trap which will allow you to actually enjoy stalking out your nephew’s hilarious pics on Facebook instead of plummeting into self-hate.

This pod explores:

  • How to catch yourself when you start “making up” what other people’s successes mean about you
  • How to get to the root of what triggers you
  • How to be sure you are setting yourself up for success by hanging out with the right peeps
  • How to switch your focus so you feel empowered instead of feeling like shit

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Resources mentioned:

  • Find out more about Martha Beck who coined the phrase “Compare and Despair”
  • Find out more about T. Harv Eker who uses the self-talk phrase “Cancel, cancel”

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The Pain Involved with Standing Up for Yourself EP#162

The Pain Involved with Standing Up for Yourself EP#162

 

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IIf you’re like many of my clients and students, you have likely found yourself super inspired to start speaking up for yourself… even to those tough peeps (hi, mom) who make it extremely challenging. You muster all your new-found courage and go broach the challenging topic at hand with the challenging person at hand, and BOOM! “Said person” doesn’t get what you’re trying to share, totally doesn’t respect any boundaries you propose, and hurls so much guilt and hurt your way, you’re not totally sure you’ll survive.

You’re left vacillating between two very opposing emotions. On one hand, you are super, fuckin’ proud of yourself for taking a stand and spelling out some tough boundaries. But on the other hand, you’re terribly hurt, bummed out, and deeply saddened that your loved one and you are at odds.

Listen, when you start speaking up for what YOU want for a change, there are going to be people in your life who just do not like the new, “empowered you”. They may be mean, make you wrong, or push guilt on you like no one’s biz. But, all is not lost. In fact, this episode is all about navigating the pain of standing up for yourself, deciding what the healthiest choices are for you, and owning your personal power like a total badass.

This pod explores:

  • How to resist the urge to “make someone like you” after the two of you have had a tough convo (even if they’re super pissed at you, but you totally don’t think you did anything wrong)
  • What to watch out for if you’re a “recovering” people-pleaser
  • How to use the other person’s reaction to know if you’re on the right track or not
  • How self-talk filters into the equation and the exact phrase I use to stay connected to my peace

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How to Stop Trying to Control Shit Out of Your Control EP#161

How to Stop Trying to Control Shit Out of Your Control EP#161

 

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EEver find yourself soooo furious when someone doesn’t do/say/be something you want them to? Or how about stressing out for days wondering if you landed that new job (which you can’t control) or if you’re going to be asked out again by you-know-who (also out of your control)? Or maybe you lose your shit if someone who is trying to “help” you isn’t doing it right? And perhaps you find yourself wondering, “Why do I want to control everything?”

In this episode, we look at the psychological and evolutionary reason why we try our damnedest to forecast every incident in our lives… aka CONTOL. Trying to force things into existence. Make your ex do something. Make someone hire you. Make someone ask you out again. And, while you’re spun out obsessing about how to control all these scenarios, you’re left feeling frustrated, empty and ultimately quite unhappy.

We also look at how our compulsion to control actually does serve us and contribute to our happiness and how to figure out the difference. Have a listen and learn how to loosen up that death-grip on control. You won’t die. Promise.

This pod explores:

  • The psychological reason we are compelled to control events and people in our lives and what to do about it
  • How to truly allow yourself to want the result you crave, without obsessing all. damn. day.
  • How to craft a new definition of success that allows you to win every time, with every thing, and everyone
  • My fav mantra formula to let go of shit you can’t control

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5 Lies You Tell Yourself About Making Others Happy EP#160

5 Lies You Tell Yourself About Making Others Happy EP#160

 

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EEver feel like if you tell someone you aren’t available to help them/do something for them, then you are totally letting them down? (And subsequently find yourself riddled with guilt?) Ever feel like you are soooo busy doing everything for everyone else that you have little, if any, time for yourself? Or have you ever felt that if you actually say NO to someone and choose to put yourself first, that you’d be a “total asshole”?

If those thoughts have run through your mind, congrats… you’re totally normal. But, I’m guessing that way of operating isn’t really leaving you super fulfilled, happy, and full of confidence and a sense of self-worth, amiright? [In my oh-so-humble opinion] we’ve been inundated with faulty messaging about what is “polite”, what is “being rude”, and what is “letting others down”. I believe the only way we can be super impactful with those we love, is to actually take care of ourselves… first. Seriously. Fucking FIRST. If you struggle in this category (again, you totally aren’t alone) have a listen to this episode where I dispel some super common myths about making everyone happy.

This pod explores:

  • The huge LIE you have probably bought into without even knowing it
  • Why putting yourself first is the most UNselfish thing you could do
  • How to take care of yourself, communicate that with others, and NOT feel like an asshole
  • Why putting everyone else first is a huge indicator of how you really value/don’t value yourself

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How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself EP#159

How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself EP#159

 

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MMany years ago, I had a discussion with my coach which started out with me bitching and complaining about how unhappy I had been in my life lately. After working through a handful of things, I became SUPER clear that my day in and day out life wasn’t reflective of the things I knew brought me joy and happiness. I wasn’t taking care of my health, wasn’t meditating, wasn’t connecting with like-minded spirits, wasn’t involved in creative projects… so NO WONDER I had hit a rough patch!

Was it that I didn’t know what would help me feel better? Nope. That was just the prob. I totally knew what lit me up, I was just not doing any of those things. I was involved in full-on self-sabotage and I had NO idea I was even doing it!

Perhaps you can relate? Maybe you want to embark on a new career, but instead of researching, you zone out on some rando’s vacation pics on Facebook. Or maybe you want to get healthier, but you continue to hang out with people who make it #supes challenging to go for the kale over the burger. If you’re like most people, chances are you consistently get in your own way and have perpetual non-cohesiveness between what you SAY you want and what you actually DO.

In this episode, I untangle what-the-hell self-sabotage even is, why we do it (even without knowing it), and exactly what you can do about it (like, today!). Be sure to grab your cheatsheet [points to yellow button above] and get ready to make some shit happen.

This pod explores:

  • How our fear is directly related to our self-sabotaging behavior and the question that will get you to the root of your fear
  • The three main areas of your life you need to examine and alter to seriously set yourself up for success
  • How to figure out a game plan for the things you need to keep, stop, and start in your daily routine

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5 Signs You’re Being a Victim EP#158

5 Signs You’re Being a Victim EP#158

 

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II know the drill… You would totally be able to figure shit out if only your ex wasn’t such an asshole… Or, you totally could move up in the company, if only your boss wasn’t such an asshat. You would for sure have a great relationship with your sister if only she wasn’t such a dick about everything. In essence… you could totally be happy if only everyone else got their shit together.

Sound familiar? Now, don’t get me wrong… I’m not saying it’s okay that your boss micromanages your ass or that it’s okay that your ex is making things hella challenging, but what I am saying is staying locked into blame and constant complaining is creating (albeit subconsciously) a total victim mentality on your part.

Wait, whaaaaa!? Yep. You. When you get stuck in the rat race of chronic “blame + complain”, you unknowingly give away all your power to people and circumstances you can’t control, perpetually feel like shit because you can’t control those things/people, and end up not doing anything to alter the situation. I mean, it’s so-and-so’s fault, right?

Wrong. Listen, you are waaaaaay to smart to live your life as a victim. Even if you had no idea you were doing so. Have a listen and see if you’ve been unknowingly residing in Martyrdomsville and what you can actually do to change it. Like, yesterday.

This pod explores:

  • How to be pissed at people and situations WITHOUT getting lost in Blame + Complain
  • Why saying shit like, “Of course this would happen to me” is doing NOTHING to aid in your personal power
  • How to stop trying to “one up” people with your current shitty set of affairs (as in, “You think your sitch sucks, just listen to my story…”)
  • Why you need to stop saying “Why me?” Like, NOW.

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5 Reasons You Never Have Enough Time and are Always Overwhelmed EP#157

5 Reasons You Never Have Enough Time and are Always Overwhelmed EP#157

 

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EEver find yourself trying to add yet another thing to your already-packed schedule and that little voice in your head screams, “I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR THIS!!!” Or how ’bout this one: You just can’t bring yourself to tell someone “No”, so you pack on an additional obligation that totally sends you over the edge into Full. Blown. Overwhelm. Total straw-that-broke-the-camel’s-back style. And, then you proceed to unleash that overwhelm on your hubs, or kids, or some poor, unassuming bystander.

Listen, we all struggle with allocating our time wisely, and even the most structured peeps can fall into the trap of feeling as though you never have enough time and become super stressed by your overwhelming… um, overwhelm. But all is certainly not lost. And, believe it or not, there are probably a decent amount of things you can easily shift to bring you loads more time (well, maybe more like a handful) and shit-ton less overwhelm.

This pod explores:

  • How saying “No” to bullshit obligations can make your world waaaay more magical
  • Why you need to implement some serious “systems” and what-the-hell that means
  • The sneaky roll Perfectionism plays in your time management
  • How to ask for help when you soooo don’t want to ask for help

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How-the-Hell to Speak Up for Yourself with Your Family EP#156

How-the-Hell to Speak Up for Yourself with Your Family EP#156

 

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IIf you’ve ever had a massive issue with a family member that left you feeling angry, frustrated, and disappointed, you are in great company. I mean… most of us have, right? It’s not uncommon to find yourself at odds with someone in your family and have a serious battle with how to navigate these sticky situations.

And maybe you’ve spoken up before and experienced a backlash you don’t want to experience again. So perhaps you’ve remained silent. And that anger, frustration, and resentment just festers and grows… until you blow up at your best friend or spouse because GOD-FORBID you actually address it with the family member involved. So, give yourself some compassion because these sorts of conflicts are extremely challenging and let’s not forget that we’re never taught how to speak up for ourselves in a kind and powerful way.

So, how do you stand up to your family? Have a listen to this episode where I break down four steps you can take to give voice to your familial grievances without moving out of the country or blocking your mom on Facebook. You just may have far more power than you think.

This pod explores:

  • Why you need to establish boundaries, what the hell that even means, and how to do it
  • My favorite way to prepare yourself before going into volatile or uncomfortable family functions
  • How to figure out the role you want certain family to play in your life
  • How to practice speaking up and what it has to do with your confidence

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Making Friends with Fear and Other Uncomfortable Emotions EP#155

Making Friends with Fear and Other Uncomfortable Emotions EP#155

 

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UUnless you happened to have a truly magical upbringing where you were encouraged to process uncomfortable emotions, it’s likely that you did what most of us did… You learned to simply shut off fear, anger, sadness, or disappointment. And, we all learned to deal with these scary-ass feelings through different means… maybe you learned to people-please instead of feeling guilt. Maybe you learned to hide out and internalize your sadness leading you to huge lash-outs and explosions in your relationships. Or maybe feeling those uncomfortable feelings led you numb out with Facebook, sex, booze, or throwing yourself into work.

If any of that sounds #supes familiar, then you are in great company, my friend. While we were able to learn reading, writing, and arithmetic in school, often we were NOT taught how to process fear, guilt, anger, or sadness in a healthy [and totally human] way. Leading us to fumble around as adults wondering what-the-hell our problem is.

In this episode, I share a three-step process to help you deal with your not-so-fuzzy emotions so that you don’t resort to addictions, explosive relationships, or lack of intimacy.

This pod explores:

  • What-the-hell emotional resiliency is and why it’s imperative to accessing the “fun” feelings you crave (Ie. Joy, happiness, excitement, love, etc)
  • How to catch yourself in an uncomfortable emotion before you turn to a behavior that isn’t healthy (Ie. Not keying someone’s car just because you’re pissed)
  • Why the “only way out is through” and what that actually looks like
  • How to do decide what to actually DO after you’ve processed some tough feelings

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3 Ways to Deal with Fear Paralysis: How to Stop Being So Damn Afraid of Everything EP#154

3 Ways to Deal with Fear Paralysis: How to Stop Being So Damn Afraid of Everything EP#154

 

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TTell me if this sounds familiar: You get all pumped up because of a hot date or an awesome job opportunity and as soon as you start to get a bit excited, BOOM, fear sets in. And, maybe some panic… let’s be honest. Totally paralyzed by fear.

All of sudden, your mind is flooded with fearful thoughts…”What if he thinks I’m ugly and have too much baggage?” or “What if they think I’m totally under-qualified…” Your excitement gets completely side-swiped by FEAR. Amiright!?

This cycle is super common and there’s actually a really good reason for that… We were given fear as a defense mechanism and it’s totally a part of our primal makeup. That’s all well and good, but how about not being so damn afraid of what people think of you?

In this week’s episode, we’re discussing how to break free from fear paralysis and my three fave ways to work with my fear instead of being victimized by it.

This pod explores:

  • The reason we need to make friends with our fear
  • The difference between self-talk and fear and how they’re connected
  • What emotional resilience is and how it can help you overcome your freak-outs
  • How to practice courage instead of getting stuck in the fear trap

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If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome

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So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to join the group! #yourewelcome

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Resources Mentioned:

  • Elizabeth Gilbert and her thoughts on fear – Discussed in her latest book, Big Magic and also on her podcast Magic Lessons
  • Find out more about Jack Canfield (who Amy quoted in this episode)
  • Invisibilia episode mentioned – Scroll to episode named “Fearless”, published on January 15th, 2015. You can also find the NPR podcast, Invisibilia, on iTunes or on your favorite podcast app
  • Glass of Water video mentioned by Mr. Smith

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