The Imposter Syndrome: Feeling Like a Fraud + What to Do About It EP#233

The Imposter Syndrome: Feeling Like a Fraud + What to Do About It EP#233

 

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You land your perfect job.
And then your inner voice tells you that you are horribly unqualified and everyone is going to find you out.

You enter a super healthy relationship with an awesome partner.
And then your inner voice tells you how damaged you are, why you aren’t good enough, and why it’s all going to come crashing down in a blazing inferno.

You finally finish that graduate degree.
And then your inner voice tells you how you were the slowest in the class, probably won’t get hired, and should probably just try to get your old job back.

Sound familiar? If so, you are likely battling a lovely little issue we (in the personal growth world)  like to call The Imposter Syndrome. The idea that, in spite of your success or accomplishment, you are somehow not good enough, a total fraud, and have fooled everyone who will surely soon find you out.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener’s burning Q about what to do when you find yourself beating yourself up about being an imposter in your career, relationship, as a parent, or whatever. You’ll learn what to do with those pesky thoughts, how to acknowledge yourself (without being a cocky asshole), and how to own your god-damned brilliance (even if that terrifies you).

This pod explores:

  • How to know if you actually are an imposter or if you’re just being a dick to yourself
  • How to zero in on what you’re really afraid of so you can get a handle on your triggers and create a much more empowering inner convo
  • Two of my favorite assignments to snap you outta this imposter trap (bring your pen and paper, Babycakes! We got work to do!)
  • The one tool you need to employ TODAY to change how you view yourself so you know, you can actually be fucking happy

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How to Stop Feeling Like Shit with Guestie Andrea Owen EP#232

How to Stop Feeling Like Shit with Guestie Andrea Owen EP#232

 

 

   

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Ever feel like you’ve checked off aaaaall the things, all the boxes, all the accomplishments and you look around and you’re still like, “Why do I still feel like shit!!?” If you’re like most, you’ve bought into the idea that the perfect husband/wife/body/career/baby/pair of shoes will surely bring you happiness.

And then it doesn’t.
So maybe you try perfectionism.
Or people-pleasing. (I mean… if he loves you then of course that will change things!)
Or maybe you isolate and shut everyone out. (Maybe this feeling will magically go away.)
Perhaps you numb yourself with booze, Netflix, or work.

If any of that sounds like “Waaaaait! How’d you know!?” then you have to tune into this week’s episode where I chat it up with my very best friend and colleague, Andrea Owen, who just so happened to write a book about it. That’s right, folks. On the show, you’ll hear her talk all about her latest bit o’ brilliance called How to Stop Feeling Like Shit, so you know… you can stop feeling like shit.

This pod explores:

  • Two of the most common ways you sabotage the fuck out of yourself without even realizing it
  • Andrea’s sure-fire way to break out of isolation without feeling like you just might die from reaching out to someone (And guess what, it’s not hard! Like, at all!)
  • How to be sure you are walking your talk when you say you value honesty and authenticity (Hint: there may be a ‘mind-blown’ moment here)
  • Some juicy behind-the-scenes-bestie secrets!

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If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.

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MEET ANDREA OWEN, THE SPECIAL GUESTIE THIS WEEK!

Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life.

She is the proud author of 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). Her second book: How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness is due out January 2, 2018 (Seal Press/Hachette Books).

When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 10-year-old son and 8-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.Learn more about Andrea at yourkickasslife.com and join the fun and wisdom at http://facebook.com/yourkickasslife.

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Vulnerability: Why It’s Scary As Shit, Why You Need It, And Where To Start EP#231

Vulnerability: Why It’s Scary As Shit, Why You Need It, And Where To Start EP#231

 

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Ever find yourself desiring deep, rich connections with your partner or your friends and family but have a hellova time letting your guard down? Maybe you even find yourself craving deep intimacy but you’re absolutely terrified to really “be seen”. I mean, isn’t it just safer to stay walled up? Well… if the other party was vulnerable first… maybe then it would be safe. Maybe. Why is it so damn hard to be vulnerable?

If you’ve found your mind spinning with the same questions, you are certainly not the exception. Many of us crave rich, soulful connections with our loved ones, but we’re absolutely paralyzed by fear of being vulnerable. So we put up massive walls, don’t let people in, and then wonder why we don’t have intimacy.

In this episode, I dig into the detrimental notions we’re inundated with in our culture, how it sends major mixed messages about vulnerability, and why you need to drastically change the narrative if you want to experience intimacy in your relationships. And guess what? You get to take as many baby steps as you need to feel safe. Promise.

This pod explores:

  • How our society shapes our views of safety in relationships
  • Challenging the notion that vulnerability equals weakness, when in reality vulnerability equals courage
  • My three-step system to gradually and lovingly step into vulnerability (without feeling like you might die)
  • The cost of not allowing room for vulnerability in your life

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What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do EP#230

What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do EP#230

 

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A PODiance member wrote to the show and wanted to know how to figure out what to do… when you just don’t know what to do… aka Making Tough Decisions. I mean… how on earth do you know if you’re making the right choice or not? And, GOD! What if you don’t make the “right” choice! Hell may freeze over…

Or maybe you’re super indecisive, always second-guessing your choices, and find yourself fearful of making the wrong choice… so you simply remain paralyzed, not moving in any real direction. Or maybe you’re having a hard time making a choice because of other people in your life. Maybe you’re afraid of letting them down or afraid of how they may feel about your choices.

In this episode, I share six steps to take when you are spiraling into the “I don’t know what to do!” abyss. These specific steps will help you get centered, make powerful choices for yourself, and let go of what everyone else may think about it. Yes, please!

This pod explores:

  • How to use the information you already know to help guide your decision-making
  • Why quitting is sometimes the best move to take
  • How to figure out if you’re making choices based on what YOU want… or if you’ve been motivated by other people’s opinions
  • The exact phrase you need to start telling yourself when you hear yourself saying, “I don’t know!”

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If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome

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How To Not Lose Your Shit With Your Family: Holiday Edition EP#229

How To Not Lose Your Shit With Your Family: Holiday Edition EP#229

 

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Find yourself dreading holiday functions with your family because it’s only a matter of time until your mom pesters you about why you don’t go to church anymore… or you aunt gives you shit for not having kids or not being married… or your uncle gets in a heated (uncomfortable) “discussion” about gun rights? Or perhaps you’re dreading the impending convo where your bro asks you for money. Again.

Even though the holidays are supposed to be merry and bright, they can often be the most stressful when it comes to dealing with our families. Enter years of baggage, a shit-ton of guilt, mix in some alcohol, and you have a family holiday that leaves you feeling like shit instead of connected with those you supposedly love the most. If this sounds any kind of familiar, all is not lost. And, believe it or not, you can totally take back your holiday experience, boundary your ass off, and consciously CHOOSE your focus this holiday. Even if your sister is an ass-hat.

This pod explores:

  • How to prepare for your family function ahead of time to set you up for success… even if your family is giving the circus a run for their money
  • What it really looks like to set up healthy boundaries and actually follow through on them
  • How to avoid (or end) uncomfortable conversations with the utmost grace
  • How to decide exactly what you want to focus on during the get-together… you know, so you can actually enjoy yourself

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How to Stop Apologizing and Over-Explaining EP#228

How to Stop Apologizing and Over-Explaining EP#228

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If you’ve hung out with me for a while, you know that I’ve spoken often about NOT apologizing for yourself in regards to your wants, opinions, needs, and desires… As long a you express those wants, opinions, needs, and desires with grace + kindness. Through my work, and talking on this subject frequently, I’ve realized that there is a slippery way we apologize for ourselves through over-explaining.

Perhaps you can identify with this idea. I mean… the last time you were unable to make it to an event, did you simply decline or did you give a lengthy explanation why you couldn’t make it? Or how ’bout over-explaining a decision you’ve made… like, not wanting kids or opting to be vegan or moving across the country or getting tattooed. Are you comfortable just stating that or do you feel the need to explain WHY you made those choices?

Listen, there are certainly going to be those people in your life who you love having convos with about the various choices you’ve made. And then… And then, there’s aaaaall those other instances where you really don’t want to get sucked into the 3rd degree about why you aren’t married yet. Amiright? In this episode, I’ll help you sort through where you tend to get sucked into the over-explaining trap, how to know if you really want to engage in the convo, and how to find some serious confidence in your choices, opinions, and stances.

This pod explores:

  • How to identify where you tend to over-explain yourself (what triggers you)
  • How to know when you actually do want to explain where you’re coming from, what choices you’ve made, or opinions you hold dear
  • How to get out of answering questions you don’t have any interest in answering… without being an asshole about it
  • The most common way people tend to over-explain themselves when it’s absolutely not necessary

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It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome

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“NO”vember: HOW TO SAY “NO” (AND NOT FEEL GUILTY) EP#227

“NO”vember: HOW TO SAY “NO” (AND NOT FEEL GUILTY) EP#227

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Ever feel like if you speak up for yourself and tell someone “No” to something they are requesting of you or decline an invite (even to obligatory family functions… GASP!) then you are totally being an asshole? Or being super mean? JUST because you’re saying “No”? If this is your belief, you are sooooo not alone. I can’t tell you how many times people tell me that if they say “No” to someone they assume they are totally responsible for the other person’s feelings.

What if that actually wasn’t true? What if saying “No” could be done with the utmost kindness and grace? What if saying “No” had nothing to do with the other person and only meant you were taking care of YOU? Well, guess what? It can. And, in this week’s pod, I’m challenging the listeners (YOU!) to not only take a stand and start saying “No” to the shit that no longer serves you, but also to change your entire mentality about what you’ve made this whole concept “mean’ until now. What if you could start saying “No” and totally lose the routine guilt trip? Yes, please! Tune in and I’ll show you how! Plus, there’s a totally free worksheet to accompany this episode! #winning

This pod explores:

  • What’s really happening when you say “Yes” to everyone else (besides yourself)
  • Why you actually mean “I won’t” when you say “I can’t”
  • Exactly HOW to say “No”… without being an ass
  • How gratitude can get you out of almost every situation

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Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!

If you’re serious about creating lasting and powerful change in your life, I urge you to read all about Deep, Down + Dirty and see if it’s just the ass kicking you may be needing.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get aaaaaall the info. #yourewelcome

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If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome

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When Someone You Love is in a Shitty Relationship EP#226

When Someone You Love is in a Shitty Relationship EP#226

 

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Ever find yourself in a situation where someone you love dearly is in (what you perceive to be) a toxic relationship? Feel like your hands are tied in trying to show your loved one what is possible if they choose to stop tolerating such shitty treatment inside their relationship? This can be so incredibly frustrating, and furthermore, what-the-hell are you supposed to do about it?

Maybe you have a bestie who calls you crying after her douchebag of BF says something super insensitive yet again and you find yourself wondering how much more you can take. Or maybe it’s your sister who constantly complains about how shitty her husband is and it seems like this is the ONLY thing you talk about anymore.

If you’ve come up against this racket and are having a hard time know what to actually DO about it, have a listen to this episode where I dig into 4 action steps you can take to let your loved one know what’s up without feeling like a total asshole.

This pod explores:

  • How to know what you need to give voice to in order to be at peace
  • How to come from a place of love and express verbally what you see and feel
  • How to establish boundaries if your concern falls on deaf ears
  • How to let go of what is NOT in your control

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INTERESTED IN DEEP, DOWN + DIRTY?

OF COURSE, YOU ARE!

Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!

If you’re serious about creating lasting and powerful change in your life, I urge you to read all about Deep, Down + Dirty and see if it’s just the ass kicking you may be needing.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get aaaaaall the info. #yourewelcome

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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP

READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM?
OF COURSE, YOU ARE!

Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!

If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome

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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!

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So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to join the group! #yourewelcome

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Stick with It or Quit with It? Knowing When to Persevere and Knowing When to Quit EP#225

Stick with It or Quit with It? Knowing When to Persevere and Knowing When to Quit EP#225

 

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You’ve been in the same industry for 20 years and you’re dying to make a change but you’re scared shitless to throw in the towel. Wouldn’t that mean you wasted two decades?

You’re not totally sure you’re getting your Master’s because it’s what YOUreally want or if it’s because that’s what mom wants… or because it’s what a younger version of you wanted. Shit. What if you just don’t want that path any longer? Finish what you started? That’s what they say, right?

You’ve always wanted to pick up and move to a new country, but jesus, how stupid would it be to quit your six-fig job? But, you’re so damn good at what you do! But, then again, Italy is calling…

If you’ve faced any of these harrowing decisions (or something similar) you know what it can feel like to tow the line of QUIT or PERSEVERE. I mean… how do you know if you should stick with something or if you should just quit while you’re (sort of) ahead?

In this episode, I cover off six, specific tactics you can employ to make your decision faaaar easier. Plus, we already know what dad will say… But, with all due respect, it ain’t about Dad or your bestie or how much time or money you’ve invested. It’s time to get clear… for YOU. For your happiness. Your fulfillment.

This pod explores:

  • How to know why you feel compelled to stick with this “thing” and how to know if that’s a bullshit reason or not
  • How to figure out if you are disenchanted with your end goal OR the hard working getting there
  • My favorite woo-woo, hippie tactic to help you access what you REALLY want
  • How to figure out what each of your options is costing you… and money isn’t the only currency, Babycakes!

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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP

READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM?
OF COURSE, YOU ARE!

Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!

If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome

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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!

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You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!

If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!

So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to join the group! #yourewelcome

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Comedy Clips:

  • Cosmic Shame by Tenacious D featuring Jack Black and Kyle Gass

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Dealing with Anxiety, Panic Attacks, and Medication EP#224

Dealing with Anxiety, Panic Attacks, and Medication EP#224

 

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Over 15 years ago, I sat in my doctor’s office explaining my obsessive and compulsive thought patterns, my debilitating worry, and my latest (and thrilling) symptom of dry-heaving. She kindly explained to me that if I continued on the same trajectory, it was likely that I would be dead from a heart attack by age thirty, or at the very least, have extreme stomach ulcers.

Bottom line: This anxiety disorder could take me out.

This wasn’t just a matter of being “a worry wort” or a “perfectionist” or all the other labels I had haphazardly thrown around to define my constant need to control and obsess on everything. This was a serious condition that was radically, and detrimentally, affecting the quality of my life.

In this week’s episode, I discuss what it really looks like to struggle with anxiety disorder, how to work through crippling panic attacks, and how to approach (or not) the journey of finding a medicinal solution. Struggling with anxiety doesn’t mean you can’t ever see an improvement in your reality. Have a listen and learn about everything you CAN do to get a handle on this obstacle in your life, because, honey, you are not a victim, you are a Survivor.

This pod explores:

  • The difference between situational anxiety and chronic anxiety and why that matters
  • How to set yourself up for success with regards to your triggers, support structure, and medication (And, we may or may not have an in-depth discussion about good ol’ Mary Jane)
  • My perspective on medication and the best advice I ever received about this journey
  • A handful of strategies to get you through the roughest of panic attacks

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NEW *FREE* WORKSHOP

READY TO GET RID OF PERFECTIONISM, SELF-DOUBT, AND OVERWHELM?
OF COURSE, YOU ARE!

Is this the year you go from a people-pleasing, guilt-tripped perfectionist to a bold and boundaried badass? Um, yeah. I think it is!

If you’re DONE feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out because you’re constantly doing, doing, doing for everyone else, then you must grab your seat in this brand-new workshop! You’ll learn the exact five-step process I take my clients through so they can let go of all the stress and angst of striving for “perfect” and caring waaaaay too much what everyone else thinks.

It’s time to finally believe in yourself, find that self-confidence you crave, and start living your life for YOU. So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to get on The List! #yourewelcome

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THE JOY JUNKIE AFTER HOURS CLUB!

COMPLETELY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. TONS OF SUPPORT YOU CRAVE.
JOIN THE CLUB.

You in on this FREE badassery yet? You are officially invited to my super exclusive/inclusive, [grin] Facebook group, The Joy Junkie After Hours Club!

If you’ve been diggin’ the pod, this group will be an extra dose of support, training vids, discussions, coupon codes, behind the scenes and advice from moi! Plus, it’s #totes free and your new soul tribe is waiting for you!

So, clickety-click RIGHT HUURRR or click that image to the right to join the group! #yourewelcome

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