[COACHING SESSION] Working with Ify on Perfectionism EP#392

[COACHING SESSION] Working with Ify on Perfectionism EP#392

What if you could listen in to a coaching session where someone is being coached on their relationship to perfectionism? You’d be all over it, right? Well, you’re in luck, my friend. In this coaching episode, I work with a lovely and highly accomplished woman, Ify, on her struggle of constantly putting things off until they can be “perfect” and how that has been seriously arresting some big goals and dreams. 

When I asked how perfectionism was showing up in her life, here is what she shared with me:

Perfectionism has been the reoccurring thorn in my spine since I was a little girl. I always struggle with this idea that everything I do, every work I put out has to have the look or the illusion of perfection. What I’ve found is that this leads to failure to launch. I always get to the very brink, then I experience analysis paralysis. It’s put my whole life on this giant pause, still waiting. On the exterior I can give the impression that I’m bold, and I have it all figured out but internally I’m second guessing every little decision.  

We look at the influence of her highly accomplished parents and how her father’s voice has turned into her inner voice, the constant pull to edit, and edit, and redo and redo, and how she is highly attached to the opinions of everyone else. Creep our session, have a pen and paper handy, and get ready to steal Ify’s homework for yourself. 

This pod explores:

  • How to let go of perfectionism if you fear that it’s the only thing keeping you in a state of excellence
  • The role of emotional intelligence in learning to process when things don’t go “perfectly”
  • Untangling the behaviors of our parents and their influence around perfectionism
  • Determining when excellence is being called for and when it’s time to loosen the grip a bit

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[TOOL] Using Human Design to Address Perfectionism with Kelsey Abbott EP#391

[TOOL] Using Human Design to Address Perfectionism with Kelsey Abbott EP#391

In this week’s show, I am thrilled to bring you a “tool” episode where I share a lesser-known modality that can aid you in working with perfectionist tendencies. Um, yes, please! I hadn’t heard about Human Design until I was a guest on Kelsey’s Abbott’s podcast and I was like, “You mean, like, the way humans are designed?” I didn’t realize that it was actually a very specific process or tool to discover more about who you are, what your strengths are, and the obstacles you may face (like, a tight grip on perfectionism).

In this episode, I bring Kelsey onto my show to discuss the multiple energy types featured in the Human Design ideology, how they all uniquely struggle with perfectionist behaviors, and Kelsey’s favorite way to start dismantling and working with that behavior. If you find yourself worrying about what everyone else thinks if you aren’t fucking perfect, find yourself procrastinating because things just “aren’t good enough yet”, or constantly compare yourself to others, you won’t want to miss this episode! Plus, Kelsey shares how you can get your hands on your own free Human Design chart!

This pod explores:

  • The 5 energy types of Human Design and their unique struggles (and solutions) with perfectionism
  • WTF Human Design even *is* and how it can help you let go of the need to please everyone else
  • Understanding “Energy Leaks” and how you can leverage them to combat perfectionism
  • Kelsey’s #1 go-to tactic she employs when a client greatly struggles with the need to be PERFECT

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THIS WEEK’S GUESTIE

Kelsey Abbott is an intuitive Human Design Reader, a Certified Professional Coach, Instigator of Joy and the host of the Find Your Awesome podcast. She helps Light Leaders remember who they are and why they’re here so they amplify their impact and send ripples of light across the planet—all with ease, joy, flow, magic and miracles. She believes that the universe wants us to be sparklyAF and that joy is our natural state. When Kelsey isn’t playing in her business, she’s bringing curiosity, play and joy to triathlon–a sport she races as an elite amateur.

Kelsey studied at the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC) where she earned certifications as a Certified Professional Coach, Energy Leadership Master Practitioner and Cor.E Performance coach. She also studied at the Applied Neuroscience Institute, earning her NeuroPositive Certificate in using neuroscience to change how the brain processes challenges. She studied Human Design with Jenna Zoe.

After a decade in Maine and 16 months of traveling around the U.S. in a small camper, Kelsey now lives in Sarasota, Florida with her husband and dog. In case you haven’t guessed, Kelsey is a Manifesting Generator living her design and following the joy.

Kelsey’s Website
The Find Your Awesome Podcast
YouTube
Human Design Readings 
Free Human Design chart

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[DIAL AN EXPERT] Jenna Teague + Ashley Looker on Perfectionism EP#390

[DIAL AN EXPERT] Jenna Teague + Ashley Looker on Perfectionism EP#390

How awesome would it be to hear two women who literally started a business called “Eff Perfect” sound off on what it takes to flip the bird to “Perfection”? Pretty amazing, amiright? Well, you are in luck, my friend.

In this week’s show, I am thrilled to dial-up an expert, well, two actually, on the subject of the constant pull to be perfect. Ashley Looker and Jenna Teague (of Eff Perfect fame) join me to discuss the many ways perfectionism shows up in our lives (hint: there’s something here for the people-pleasers), how to move through your perfectionism triggers, and how to celebrate this part of you that strives for excellence. 

Have you ever wondered if perfectionism was actually a good thing? Like, didn’t that get you through college and shit-ton of tough job interviews? Perhaps it’s the way you’ve stood out from the rest or identified yourself up until this point… who would you be without it!? Jenna + Ashley sound off on these concepts, how perfectionism can be a sneaky bitch, and their favorite tool to stop your perfectionism dead in its tracks. 

This pod explores:

  • Ashley + Jenna’s “ACC” tool to help you give a middle finger to perfection
  • Five behaviors you may be doing that are perfectionism in disguise
  • Recent moments where Jenna + Ashley had to walk their talk and combat their own perfectionism
  • How to know when you’ve successfully overcome your perfectionism

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THIS WEEK’S DIAL AN EXPERT GUESTIES

Jenna Teague (pictured on the right) is a Visionary Biz Strategist, Queer-Identifed Psychotherapist, and Professional Co-Creator. For the past 15 years, she’s been helping clients dream bigger and execute their big visions, from her thriving private therapy practice to partnering with coaching industry leaders to achieve their first six-figure launches.

Ashley Looker (pictured on the left) is a Wellness + Empowerment Coach who shows ambitious overachieving women how to slow down and align with their Soul Purpose so they can step out of overwhelm and busyness and into their joy.

From a shared passion for supporting womxn in living their best lives free from perfectionism, Eff Perfect was born. Having both struggled with perfectionism in their own lives, they know firsthand how paralyzing it can be. Too many womxn let perfectionism run, and sometimes ruin, their lives. They’re here to say eff that.

Website: effperfect.com
Instagram: instagram.com/effperfect | @effperfect
Jenna’s site: jennateague.com
Ashley’s site: uniqueholistichappiness.com

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[AMY SAYS] Combatting the Need to Be Perfect EP#389

[AMY SAYS] Combatting the Need to Be Perfect EP#389

Iused to flippantly refer to myself as a Perfectionist and oftentimes I would elude to it being somewhat of a badge of honor. As I got older and my anxiety increased, I realized that being a chronic perfectionist was actually STEALING my joy instead of making my job easier. But, how does one just stop being a perfectionist?

Perhaps you find yourself in the same boat; Vacillating between being SOLD on the idea that everything has to be just perfect and the conflicting desire to let things “go with the flow” or just be “good enough”. If you’ve found yourself in this dance, you are most certainly not alone. In this week’s episode, I break down just how detrimental the strive for perfection can be and how it often leads to much suffering, frustration, and angst.

Additionally, I dig into 4, easy-to-implement steps you can take to begin allowing room for your humanity without sacrificing excellence and how you can maintain your integrity AND your sanity.

This pod explores:

  • Why “Perfect” doesn’t really exist and how the pursuit of perfection can be #supes detrimental
  • How to figure out the personal “Rules” you’ve established for yourself that have locked you into perfectionism
  • My favorite tool to catch and re-route your perfectionism in the moment (without overthinking it to death)
  • How to allow room for excellence and integrity in what you do, without the “pressure of perfect”

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The Things I’ve Learned from 8 Years of Podcasting: Saying Goodbye to Mr. Smith EP#388

The Things I’ve Learned from 8 Years of Podcasting: Saying Goodbye to Mr. Smith EP#388

Well, it’s the end of an era my friends.
Eight years ago, I had the notion of starting a humble life and love podcast and wanted to have a sidekick of sorts to bounce things off of during the show. Considering Mr. Smith was the only other person in the household, he graciously obliged. Now, here we are, millions of downloads and thousands of subscribers later, bidding him the fondest of farewells.

Mr. Smith has been the “voice of the people” and one of the most integral pieces of the podcast over the years. He will be missed greatly but he’s off to accomplish some big dreams, so join us on this farewell episode where we take a nostalgic walk through the last eight years. I turn the tables and interview him on the biggest lessons he’s learned over the years, how he feels our relationship has grown, his perspective as a cis-gendered male speaking to a largely cis-gendered female audience, and so very much more.

We truly hope you enjoy this candid conversation about his journey in sharing my work with the world and what that meant for us behind the scenes. Insider scoop ahead.

This pod explores:

  • The rocky moments of doing this project together
  • Mr. Smith’s biggest lesson learned about speaking up and establishing boundaries
  • Insider info on Mr. Smith’s maaaaany Inner Critics
  • Mr. Smith’s rap name from the 80s (you’re welcome)

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[TOOL] Hypnosis Session to Heal the Imposter Complex EP#387

[TOOL] Hypnosis Session to Heal the Imposter Complex EP#387

So, you consciously “know” that you should be proud of all your accomplishments and acknowledge that you are, in fact, deserving of that promotion/accolade/compliment but why don’t you actually believe it? I’ll tell you why. Logic, reason, and rationale are housed in the conscious part of the mind which is estimated to be roughly 10% of the mind power. Your beliefs and habits, however, are located in the subconscious mind which is the other whoppin’ 90%. That means that simply “knowing” that you aren’t an imposter doesn’t help you to feel any less of a fraud if there is a deep-seated belief that you aren’t enough/worthy/valuable. That disempowering belief will win every time.

But all is not lost my friend. There are a handful of ways to access and shift the beliefs of the subconscious mind and one of my absolute favorite methods is via hypnosis. In this episode, I share a bit about what hypnosis is, how it works, and how it can be a powerful aid in shifting negative beliefs you may hold about being a fraud or an imposter. After a brief explanation, I guide you through a powerful hypnosis session to help you unlock the negative beliefs you’ve been attached to around your imposter complex.

This pod explores:

  • What hypnosis actually is (as in, what is really happening in the brain) and what it is not (It’s not clucking like a chicken, FYI)
  • What hypnosis has to do with the inner critic and how you can use it to kick your inner critic in the ass
  • How you go into hypnotic trances daily without even knowing it
  • How to shift your belief that you are a big-ass fraud

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[AMY SAYS] 5 Ways to Stop Feeling Like a Fraud EP#386

[AMY SAYS] 5 Ways to Stop Feeling Like a Fraud EP#386

You land your perfect job. 
And then your inner voice tells you that you are horribly unqualified and everyone is going to find you out.

You enter a super healthy relationship with an awesome partner. 
And then your inner voice tells you how damaged you are, why you aren’t good enough, and why it’s all going to come crashing down in a blazing inferno.

You finally finish that graduate degree. 
And then your inner voice tells you how you were the slowest in the class, probably won’t get hired, and should probably just try to get your old job back.

Sound familiar? If so, you are likely battling a lovely little issue we (in the personal growth world) like to call The Imposter Complex – A.K.A. Feeling like a fraud. The idea that, in spite of your success or accomplishment, you are somehow not good enough, a total charade, and have fooled everyone who will surely soon find you out.

In this week’s episode, I discuss what to do when you continue to beat yourself up about being an imposter in your career, relationship, as a parent, or whatever. You’ll learn what to do with those pesky thoughts, how to acknowledge yourself (without being a cocky asshole), and how to own your god-damned brilliance (even if that terrifies you).

This pod explores:

  • The reason why over 70% of people struggle with Imposter Complex at some point in their life
  • How to zero in on what you’re really afraid of so you can get a handle on your triggers and create a much more empowering inner convo
  • Two of my favorite assignments to snap you outta this imposter trap (bring your pen and paper, Babycakes! We got work to do!)
  • The one tool you need to employ TODAY to change how you view yourself so you know, you can actually be fucking happy

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[DIAL AN EXPERT] Tanya Geisler on Imposter Complex EP#385

[DIAL AN EXPERT] Tanya Geisler on Imposter Complex EP#385

Tell me if this sounds familiar. You land a promotion you’ve been working toward for ages and instantly a barrage of commentary from your inner critic pipes in, “Just wait until they find out you have no idea what you are doing. You know it’s just a matter of time before they find you out.” Or maybe you are about to have your art featured in a high-profile exhibit, or you landed a lead role in a play you auditioned for, or your band is going to headline a major event and instead of thrill and excitement for this accomplishment, your inner shit-talker goes on a bender. “When they see who you really are, they’re going to regret giving you this opportunity. Who do you think you are!?”

If you’ve landed in the murky territory of the Imposter Complex, you are certainly not alone. In fact, some of the greatest minds of our time have admitted to struggling with feeling as though they are about to be “found out”. So, the great news is that Tina Fey, Michelle Obama, Maya Angelou, and Meryl Streep are living proof that this debilitating thought process doesn’t have to thwart your success. But, how? How does one move through the gloomy feeling of “I’m a fraud!”?

In this week’s show, I am thrilled to dial-up an expert on the subject. Tanya Geisler is a dear friend and colleague and one of the foremost experts on the subject of the imposter complex. She shares the specific behaviors we tend to employ (hint: perfectionism, people-pleasing, etc.) when in the throws of the imposter complex and what we can do to start shifting that narrative.

This pod explores:

  • Why it’s not really a syndrome and why we need to stop calling it that
  • The origin of Imposter Complex and how that affects us today
  • The connection between your self-worth and feeling like an imposter and what to do about it
  • Figuring out what your imposter complex go-to behaviors are

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THIS WEEK’S ‘DIAL AN EXPERT’ GUESTIE

Tanya Geisler is a certified Leadership Coach, TEDxWomen speaker, and writer who teaches high-performing leaders how to combat their Imposter Complex and lead with impeccable impact so they can achieve their ultimate goals. Her clients include best-selling authors, public speakers, and rockstar motivators.

Check her out HERE.

Read her article on the 12 Lies of the Imposter Complex.

Take the Quiz to find out what Imposter Complex behaviors you may be leaning on.

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[COACHING SESSION] Working with Rachel on Imposter Complex EP#384

[COACHING SESSION] Working with Rachel on Imposter Complex EP#384

What if you could listen in to a coaching session where someone is being coached on feeling like an imposter? You’d be all over it, right? Well, you’re in luck, my friend. In this inaugural coaching episode, I work with a lovely and highly accomplished woman, Rachel, on her struggle of feeling “not enough” and how that manifests into an imposter complex in her workplace. 

When I asked how imposter complex was showing up in her life, here is what she shared with me:

I’m constantly plagued by the idea that I need to achieve more or earn more credentials in order to step into my expertise. I work in violence prevention/intervention and I’m also a survivor of various forms of interpersonal violence. I’m so worried about showing up EITHER as a survivor OR an expert because of how long I’ve been doing this work instead of owning that some of the expertise I have is simply because I lived it. I constantly feel like “who are you” to think I can become a consultant on issues I know damn well I am capable of consulting on and feel like I’m not worthy of stepping into my power as an actual expert in my field. I’m always making the excuse that I need to do more schooling or work for longer when in my heart I would love to step up and own my skill set. 

We dig into her constant pull to amass credential after credential in order to prove her worth, the constant feeling of “not enough”, and some steps to take to start altering this reality. If you find yourself addicted to approval or achievement at the cost to your own happiness, this episode is a must-listen. Creep our session, have a pen and paper handy and get ready to steal Rachel’s homework for yourself. 

This pod explores:

  • The first step in changing the belief that you are an “imposter”
  • Understanding how our beliefs about “not being enough” are formed and take hold
  • The connection between your self-worth and feeling like an imposter and what to do about it
  • How to stop collapsing your “enoughness” with your accomplishments 

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The Impact Of Our Parents: Healing The Mother/Father Wound Ep#383

The Impact Of Our Parents: Healing The Mother/Father Wound Ep#383

Regardless if your parents were amazing or downright awful, it is highly likely that there are certain things you experienced as a child that have greatly impacted your current reality. And, not necessarily in a positive way. Although we don’t realize it at the time, we take in every bit of information from our parents, form beliefs off of that information, and develop a complex system of coping mechanisms. 

So, maybe your mom always picked her body apart in front of you, so you developed the belief that you had to have a “perfect” body in order to be worthy. Or lovable. Or a “real woman”. And this belief led to you clinging to perfectionism around your relationship with your body. Or maybe your dad was constantly absent leading you to conclude that men in your life will abandon you. And now, in adulthood, you find yourself picking romantic partners who aren’t emotionally or physically available or searching for approval from your male co-workers.

Reckoning with the impact of your parents is no small feat and can stir up many uncomfortable thoughts and emotions. But, on the other side of that reckoning is unbelievable healing and freedom. Trust… we don’t dig up this shit for the fun of it. We do it to heal. To move to the other side. To access our worth and our happiness. In this episode, I share a three-part formula you can use to unpack the effects of your parents, begin to let go of the past, and access your “enoughness”.

This pod explores:

  • The real reason you cling to people-pleasing, perfectionism, and control
  • Why we still want approval from our parents… even when they’re total asshats
  • An easy, 3-step acronym to help you deal with the residue of your childhood
  • How to figure out the beliefs you created due to what was modeled for you by your parents (and what to do to change them)

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