Vulnerability: Why It’s Scary as Shit, Why You Need It, and Where to Start [TJJS:EP172]

It’s hard to be vulnerable

It’s hard to be vulnerable

EEver find yourself desiring deep, rich connections with your partner or your friends and family but have a hellova time letting your guard down? Maybe you even find yourself craving deep intimacy but you’re absolutely terrified to really “be seen”. I mean, isn’t it just safer to stay walled up? Well… if the other party was vulnerable first… maybe then it would be safe. Maybe. Why is it so damn hard to be vulnerable?

If you’ve found your mind spinning with the same questions, you are certainly not the exception. Many of us crave rich, soulful connections with our loved ones, but we’re absolutely paralyzed by fear of being vulnerable. So we put up massive walls, don’t let people in, and then wonder why we don’t have intimacy.

In this episode, I dig into the detrimental notions we’re inundated with in our culture, how it sends major mixed messages about vulnerability, and why you need to drastically change the narrative if you want to experience intimacy in your relationships. And guess what? You get to take as many baby steps as you need to feel safe. Promise.

This pod explores:

  • How our society shapes our views of safety in relationships
  • Challenging the notion that vulnerability equals weakness, when in reality vulnerability equals courage
  • My three-step system to gradually and lovingly step into vulnerability (without feeling like you might die)
  • The cost of not allowing room for vulnerability in your life



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