How to Deal with The Great Friendship Break-Up [TJJS:EP166]

Breaking up with a friend

Breaking up with a friend

TTell me if this sounds familiar: You have “this friend”… and this friend is perhaps someone you’ve know forever, maybe you saw each other through some tough times, but at this particular place in your life, this friendship has been feeling downright toxic. But you guilt yourself saying, “Well, we’ve been friends since college” or “Am I a dick if I don’t want to be there for her anymore?”

If that sounds at all familiar, you are in the same boat that many people find themselves in when they reach their 30s and 40s. You’ve grown as a person, your life has changed, and your priorities have shifted. But, you still feel tethered to this historical relationship that feels more like it’s robbing you dry than adding to your intimate connections.

A listener of the show wrote to the pod asking how to actually let go of one of these friendships. I mean, how do you go about breaking up with a friend? Is there an approach? How do you know if you’re being a big ‘ol meanie? If you’ve been pulled to part ways with a friendship, but have no idea what-the-hell that actually looks like, you may want to have a listen. I discuss 3 major concepts you need to keep in mind (you know, to keep your shit straight) and 2 specific methods you can take to actually pull the trigger on the “break up”.

This pod explores:

  • How to tap into the “real” reason you’re looking to end the friendship
  • How to get connected to the way you need to conduct yourself so you’re proud of your own behavior (even if the other person loses their shit)
  • How to determine if there is any way the friendship can be salvaged
  • Two specific methods to “break up” with this unfulfilling friendship

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