How to Stop Saying Yes and Start Saying No [TJJS:EP165] (partial re-broadcast)

Stop saying yes

Stop saying yes

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EEver feel like if you speak up for yourself and tell someone “No” to something they are requesting of you or decline an invite (even to obligatory family functions… GASP!) then you are totally being an asshole? Or being super mean? JUST because you’re saying “No”? If this is your belief, you are sooooo not alone. I can’t tell you how many times people tell me that if they say “No” to someone they assume they are totally responsible for the other person’s feelings.

What if that actually wasn’t true? What if saying “No” could be done with the utmost kindness and grace? What if saying “No” had nothing to do with the other person and only meant you were taking care of YOU? Well, guess what? It can. And, in this week’s pod, I’m challenging the listeners (YOU!) to not only take a stand and start saying “No” to the shit that no longer serves you, but also to change your entire mentality about what you’ve made this whole concept “mean’ until now. What if you could start saying “No” and totally lose the routine guilt trip? Yes, please! Tune in and I’ll show you how! Plus, there’s a totally free worksheet to accompany this episode! #winning

This pod explores:

  • What’s really happening when you say “Yes” to everyone else (besides yourself)
  • Why you actually mean “I won’t” when you say “I can’t”
  • Exactly HOW to say “No”… without being an ass
  • How gratitude can get you out of almost every situation


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